success (in my opinion)

just to update, asher is doing great. only a couple minor accidents in the past few weeks. so he really is daytime bladder trained. sweet. no more rashes.

in other news, i have just under 6wks to my due date. beginning to get a little anxious. ready for that new little ball of human to stare at. in the meantime, my shirts seem to have shrunk. my belly keeps trying to poke out from under them. those clothing people who say you stay whatever size you were pre-pregnancy, so only buy one size of maternity clothes are liars. in the beginning i wore a small (x-small in some cases), in the middle a medium, and now (for shirts anyway..not pants) i will be needing large. same thing happened last time. whoever they measured to come up with the ‘one-size for the whole pregnancy’ theory must also be those freakish people who lose all the weight after a month. those people are not cool. though some of them are my friends, in that area…not cool. i was just happy to do it in under a year (just barely).

in other, other news…now that the potty training thing is not so intensely taking up all my mind and energy…time to start a new book. any suggestions?

Decision

I have decided that we are sticking with it. Asher no longer uses diapers, except naptime and bedtime (we’ll deal with those later). He still has some accidents but it’s getting less and less frequent, and a number of times he’s told me he has to go, so that’s encouraging. I would not say he’s totally “potty trained” just yet, but it will be very soon, so I’m going to keep after it. Bowel training hasn’t really sunk in yet either, but he’s gone from having 5 a day to one or two, so I can handle that for now.

So in conclusion, I would not really recommend training so early unless you have a good reason to want to (such as, a new baby on the way and a little boy that gets rashes twice a week and screams through most diaper changes). You will need good motivation. If it weren’t for that and all the cheerleading and support I got from other moms I definitely would have thrown in the towel 3 days into it. There was one day in particular that I was starting to ‘meltdown’ and was crying and frustrated and sat down to pray. Moments later a friend called to check in on me. Everything she said was so encouraging and helpful that I was actually excited to continue after naptime. God is merciful. I’m still not on the green side of the fence yet, but there’s been so much improvement that I know it will not be much longer and it will be worth it to keep hanging in.

However w/baby #2, unless he/she walks up to me and says, “mama, i want to go on the potty”, using a british accent, I will wait until at least 20 months, probably 24. I’ve talked w/a few folks who waited till their kid was 3 and it only took one day, but I’m not doing diapers on the same kid for 3 years. Who knows, maybe it’s like childbirth and I’ll forget the pain in a year or so, and will end up doing it early again. :o)

Days …uh…how long has it been?

So we’re still at it. Yesterday (sunday) was an amazingly good day. He only had one accident, and we were out and about most of the day. Interestingly, the only accident was at home. Figures. He even peed in the potty for the nursery workers at church, and when we went out to eat afterward he was saying ‘potty’ (or pootay..) so i took him in at the restaurant and he went there. amazing. today…hit or miss. did fine while running errands but not so much at home. he seems to do better not at home. not sure what that’s all about.

Right now i’m babysitting for a friend while she goes to a doctor appt. a 2 yr-old and i think a 4 month old. I forgot about the good old infant days when they just lay there and stare at you. Not to mention eat the “free food”. Nice. Ryan’s out of town at a conference in LA this week, so we’re going up to Oma & Opa’s tomorrow (till wed. evening) so the traveling should be interesting. only 1 1/2 hrs though, so not a big deal.

Days 4 & 5

I don’t have the counts from yesterday, but there were slightly more accidents than successes…almost equal. Today, we’ve had NO success prior to naptime, and i think we’re both tired of the whole thing. Asher doesn’t want anything to do with sitting on the potty today, or doing anything else that I want him to do for that matter. And i’m tired of following him around and entertaining him all day (think he’s sick of that too, I think he misses his “alone time”). So it’s a fun day. I’m sticking with it for now, out of sheer stubborness at this point, every other part of me is ready to just put diapers back on him. But i’m determined to make it to sunday at least before quitting (7 full days). I feel like my own aerobics instructor (one more time, ok, one more time, that’s great, two more reps..). From what I hear from friends, I apparently can’t expect too much success till another couple weeks, so it’s just a matter of if i have the energy and patience to stick it out that long or not. At this point, i’m thinking probably not……but we’ll see….”you can do it, one more set, that’s right, kick….and lift…” Keep reminding myself that I am very pregnant and NOT wonderwoman (the outfit would look ridiculous at this point), so to give myself a little slack…and nap….

On the upside, the women in my church are really great. I’ve had quite a few call to check in on me to see how it’s going and plenty of offers for diversions/company & prayer. It’s nice to not be our own little island of a family.

Day 3

i did not get the chance to blog last night b/c ryan needed the computer for some work, so here’s yesterday’s update:

Pee in the potty: 9 times out of 12, Poop: 0 out of 2.

Today we’re having attitude problems, so it’s been a bit stressful…doesn’t help that I am at that “can’t sleep well at night” phase in the pregnancy. I forgot about this stage…had it with Asher, but as with all other things pregnant, forgot about it. Thankfully I have a super-dad husband who rescued me from 12-1:20 and let me run out for lunch and some peace of mind. Pretty much the first time i’ve left the house since Sunday, so that was great. I also chatted with a friend/experienced mom (4 kids so far) and was greatly encouraged as to where Asher is at the moment. We will re-evaluate on Sunday whether or not he (and we) are able/willing to continue, or if we will hang up the big-boy pants for a later date. However, at the moment I am hopeful, though aware that he is a little guy and might be pushing the readiness.

Potty Training Days 1 & 2

That’s right folks. Potty training. Things that I just don’t think about very often: the Dakotas (i forget about those states), washing my shins (i do shave though, so i figure that counts), and that humans have to be taught to use the toilet. Anyhow, it was suggested that i blog through this endeavor. I will do my best. However the method i have chosen leaves no free time while he’s awake and during naptime I pretty much have to nap, most likely due to being 8 months pregnant while potty training a just barely 18 month old. So that leaves evenings. we’ll see.

So the first question i realize is, “doesn’t he turn 18months tomorrow?? isn’t that kind of early for potty training?”. My first thought is ‘back in the day’ most people apparently started around 18 months…my mom did it w/my older sister and I, and from other people around their age I hear similar stories. So it’s been done. Second, My original plan was to wait till he was 2, unless he just seemed to be showing a lot of ‘readiness signs’, however it occurred to me that would mean potty training while nursing a 4-month old. Possible, but not ideal. I would have to stretch it out over a longer span of time, and I’m a fan of the “quick and painful” approach to most things. Just grin and bear it and get it over with already. So i figured, ‘what the heck, let’s give it a shot’, and if he’s not ready, then we’ll go back to diapers in a week or so, and give it another try sometime after the baby comes. However, if it does work, and he is ready (he’s shown some signs but certainly not all) then great, only one set of diapers to deal with come late august/early september. Even if he takes to it and reverts after his sibling comes, i won’t have to totally retrain, just a refresher.

Now, if i had’ve written yesterday afternoon, I would have said, “I really don’t think he’s ready”. He basically peed all over my house, didn’t seem to notice or care that pee was running down his leg and HATED sitting on the potty. That was the longest day i’ve ever had. But i am determined to stick it out through Friday, if after Friday there’s not much change, we’ll chuck it for now. However, after discovering that I just bought a stupid potty seat that was too high and the bowl too small (think it was cutting off circulation), I called a friend and borrowed her “Baby Bjorn” one-piece potty seat. He happily sat right down in it and peed last night, so I am now an avid baby bjorn fan.

Today I have a sliver of hope. We only had 4 accidents (unfortunately 3 were poop related…super gross), and NO accidents after naptime. Of course most of this was because of timing, and not him prompting using the potty. I put him on the potty every 15-20 minutes ALL DAY long…literally. For at least 4 minutes at a time, but often he’s willing to sit longer (we read books, play with toys or watch clifford dvd’s). However, by this evening there were a few times that he went as soon as i sat him down. It seemed like he was beginning to connect that when he pees there, he gets a chocolate (well..carob) covered raisin. His special “potty treat”. Basically just like training a dog…. anyway, from what friends who have done it (with little ones) tell me, by the third day it will really start to click and by friday he’ll be peeing regularly in the potty. The other end of the training really seems to be kid by kid. Some kids have no problem with poop and others take 6 more months to really get it down. I’ve been praying for ‘supernatural potty training’, so hopefully Asher will be in the former catagory. We shall see. Regardless I feel like today was a success.

On a side note, to anyone about to take on the adventure, buy more than 6 pairs of training pants. That was another dumb uninformed purchase i made. Not dumb pants, just not enough of them.

Say a prayer for us if you think of it, and I’ll check in with the highlights tomorrow.