I have memory issues. If it doesn’t get written down, odds are it will be forgotten. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve come downstairs with the sole purpose of moving laundry from the washing machine to the dryer & after spending 45 minutes doing various other activities going back upstairs, remembering much later in the day my original intentions. Asher helps me remember my grocery list (how ’bout the peas momma?…seriously, he’s said that while waiting in the checkout line). Two nights ago ryan asked me to get my phone from the kitchen for him (my phone is his alarm clock), so I walked to the kitchen….put a couple dishes away, and went to bed. The next morning the phone woke me up ringing in the kitchen (good thing since i apparently didn’t hear my alarm going off 15min earlier).
In stark contrast to this problem, about a year ago I read, “When life & beliefs Collide“. This was a pretty incredible book, encouraging women (& everyone but geared toward women) to pursue sound theology. Her stance is that everyone is a theologian. It’s just a matter of whether or not you’re a good one.
In this book she goes into great detail about Eve. Something that really impacted me (so much that I actually remember the source of the info) was the word Ezer (ay-zer). In Gen. 2:18, it reads:
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Helper, helpmeet, helper suitable, helper comparable. These are ways different bible translations put it. So the “help” part of it in the Hebrew is “ezer”.
help, succor (relief, aid assistance), one who helps
Where else is this “ezer” word used? A bunch of places. I’m not taking the space to go through them all, you can follow that link. All the other places that word is used refer either to God “helping” his people or soldiers/warriors “helping” in battle.
Whether I realized it or not, previously when i thought of my role as “helpmeet” from what I got hearing others & reading that word, I had a much more passive interpretation (almost to the point of “ooh ooh, can i help? can i help?”). What does it mean to help? I haven’t gotten this completely figured out, but pondering the use of the word ezer leads me to believe we are as Carolyn Custis James submits, “STRONG Helpers”….proactive ones. Not little kids who are to be given silly tasks so they can “help” by staying out of their parents’ hair.
If that’s the case, well….we better have a good theological foundation ladies. Because our “strong help” can go either way…whether we intend for it to or not….I mean…look at Eve…